– Petronella Eates
For most individuals who decide on adopting a baby, the decision usually blooms as a result of an inability to conceive a child biologically, an inability to carry a baby to term or due to the knowledge of chances of serious genetic deformities in the offspring. The loss of a child at a later stage, after birth, could also influence one’s decision to adopt. Such experiences generally leave a feeling of inadequacy and with it, an uncontrollable longing to have a child.
Most couples consider adoption as a last resort, after having gone through a number of medical procedures. However, it is heartwarming to see an increase in the number of people leaning towards this option in spite of the fact that they can have biological children. Some also opt to expand their families through adoption, after having biological children.
Whatever the reason, it is essential for adoptive parents and families to actually ‘want’ the baby to be a part of their lives. Soul children have an identity of their own and can never take the place of a lost child. Similarly, adoption is not an ‘act of charity’ or a ‘noble act’. ‘We will be able to give the child a better life’ cannot be the only intention behind taking this step neither can ‘Our biological child will not be lonely anymore’ or ‘We will have someone to look after us when we grow old’ be the foundation of a successful adoptive relationship.
Unconditional love and a strong desire to connect with your soul child are essential factors in this case.