Shirkhan Shireen says, “I’m adopted and I have known since I was a little child. But, my parents explained everything to me when I was older and I was really sad. I cried a lot and during the following years I didn’t talk about it. For me it was not easy to talk about it and to answer questions about it. I thought that my biological mother didn’t love me that’s why she gave me away. I also thought that my parents loved my brother (he is the biological son of my parents) more than me.
I had big fights with my parents. I began to talk about it when I was around 17 or 18 and then I tried to find answers – Who is my mother? Why did she give me to a home for children (Shreevatsa) and do I have any brothers or sisters.
I still have no answers but the only thing that I know is that I love her and she is my mother. But I found out that she loved me and she cried when she handed me over to the workers at Shreevatsa. She couldn’t stay at home with a baby. Poor family, she was 16 and unmarried. My parents always support me and they gave me a real good life. My mum wanted that I get a better life and if she would see me, I think she would be very proud of me.” – A short story of me, an adopted girl from Pune who lives in Germany.
Minnie Damle says, “I too was adopted from Shreevatsa. My parents have always been open, honest and upfront with me. My hardest struggle was not feeling like I “belonged” as a child. That certainly isn’t the case as I’m now in my mid 30’s and know better. My parents and brother have and continue to give me their unconditional support and love. I know no other meaning of family than the one I belong to and am very proud to be a part of it.”
Arunima Bhattacharya says “We have told our children and family and friends about our adoption. My daughter is 7 and last week she was sobbing at night and told me that one of her friends told her that adopted kids do not live with their actual family. I was not surprised. I was not angry. I told my princess that I will talk to her friend and her mom and explain to them about their understandable ignorance. We are ACTUAL family. I told my daughter that we are special and different and it takes a lot to be so. And that not everyone will understand our bond. I have to be very careful to choose the right words as our son is biological. The balance is fine. My son (he is 8) then told her, peple can be mean but that is because they don’t know. How true! I could see the dark cloud slowly disappearing from her face and she slept nestled between me and her bro. But when I think about it, it must be a hard time for that tiny soul. But then, all good things are somehow difficult. Isn’t it?”
According to Heidi Thompson, ‘That choice about whether or not to seek contact with birth parents is a very difficult aspect.”
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